
Picture yourself in this situation:
You’re on the street, carrying and playing with your friend’s new iphone. He borrowed it for some reason.
Shortly after that, on an empty and dark street, a stranger suddenly appears, points a gun at your face and says: “the phone or I’ll shoot”.
Without even thinking you give the phone and you simply watch as the man goes away
Later on, you meet your friend and he asks for the phone. Your answer is the expected excuse: “I got mugged. I really couldn’t do anything else. He had a gun!!”
Question now is: Couldn’t you really do anything else? You might say you don’t but you actually had a choice there: Not to give the phone. You would probably end up with a bullet in your head, but it’s still a choice. You made it based on the conditions you have.
It’s extreme right? But a very common reaction on other situations of our daily life too:
- I can’t study for the exam. My mother gave me some errands to do and then I have to pick up my brother at the airport;
- I can’t go to my kid’s soccer game. I have a lot of work to do for Monday;
- I can’t quit my job! I have children to raise and feed;
- I can’t do anything about that problem. It’s not on my job description to do it.
And so on, and so on…
All of these situations are possible to be done. You actually CAN! But you don’t want to.
And, at the same time, you run from the responsability of making the choice. It’s always somebody else’s fault. But it’s not! It’s yours and only! No matter which factors influence the decision, the responsability of making the choice it’s only up to you.
We make choices everyday and it’s scaring to acknowledge that we’re the only ones to blame. On the other hand, the faster we accept it, the faster we realize that we can take full responsability for our life. And that’s empowering!
It is said that with great power comes great responsability but I prefer to think it the other way around:
With great responsability comes great power! Taking responsability is taking control of your life. And there’s no bigger power than that.